I was excited that I’d be given a chance to voice my concerns (which are innumerable to begin with) through the “Butt Out” campaign for Jealous 21 and will voice only that which requires more attention than any other. Everyone believes that “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”. Instead how about believing that “Everybody is an individual and each individual has unique traits”.
I get very irritated when people stereotype a particular gender i.e., they perceive a gender to act/behave like how the society expects them to. When somebody doesn’t they gang up against the person and police them. I know the topic might be a little too “Feminist” but it’s time we take a stand against ‘People running around policing women’
Gender Policing is a pressing issue and probably one of the main reasons why ‘Violence against women’ have been increasing everyday!
By definition Gender policing means forcing a man to ‘act like a man’ or forcing a woman to ‘act like a woman’. I.e. it deems that it’s OK if a boy or a man is aggressive and outgoing, but the same in a woman is intolerable.
In India girls or women are expected to behave in a certain manner, failing which you would be deemed an outlaw in the society and suddenly its everyone’s business to discipline them. Why not discipline yourselves instead? After all change begins within you! Right?!
India shows an alarming increase in such incidents, where a 13-year analysis of crime data reveals that a little more than 57 rapes were reported every day. This averages over two rapes every hour, every day during the last 13 years. (CHRI)
Most of the rapists were heard saying –
‘she was dressed like that – she was asking for it’… ‘she was out late at night, she needed to be punished’ etc.
These explanations still do not justify the act of violence. Why is it anyone’s business to be running around policing someone else? So for heaven’s sake grow a pair and stop this atrocity. If you can’t help, then at least mind your own business!! Do not help others in such unmanly acts.
We have every right to live the way we want to, dress the way we like and speak our mind, just like others in the society.
Reference: 1) http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/One-rape-every-30-minutes-in-India/articleshow/39128982.cms 2) http://vimeo.com/102474256